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Given the many demands pulling at parents, it is easy for them to fall into the trap of trying to make to the most of the time with their kids by being fun, or what used to be called over the years, “cool”. A “cool” parent was one who could relate with their kids, worked to bridge the generation gap, and wanted their kids to have a parent that their kids could brag about to their friends as being fun and allowed them to essential do what they wanted, follow their own supposed innate wisdom, without many limits being imposed. In counseling, we would call those “permissive parents.” Now days, it’s called, being “woke.” But, unlike in previous generations of parents, being “woke” is now being used as a sort of a personal accolade, indicating that the parent “gets it” with regard to how to truly parent in a way that enable your kids to have maximum freedom to explore his world. As a parent, trust me, I do understand the importance of being a parents who is enjoyable to be around, who says, “Yes,” more than, “No” when possible, and tries to ensure that kids can grow into their God-designed potential. However, most concerningly, I have seen a dangerous self-imposed blindness in those parents who are striving for “wokeness.” Without understanding that things have been unleashed into our youth culture, the likes of which have never been seen, to be a parent who strives to be liked by his/her kids at the expense of being wise is simply electing to close your eyes to the dangers active looking for kids with parents who “can’t see for looking.” Now, I am aware that I might be a bid jaded from having spent over a decade working intensively with the full continuum of sex offenders. However, during those years, I did a deep dive into the minds, motives, and methods of Predators… which opened my eyes to how they think, what fuels their hunger for young flesh, what drives them, how they groom, and what are the things they look for in their determination of whether or not to being their methodical manipulation of a particular child. What is one thing that became clear? The best protective measure for a child’s safety is a parent who is involved, aware and protective… not one who prides him/herself in being their own person, who takes a fairly “hands-off” approach, and who follows the winds and trends of youth culture in an effort to be viewed as “woke.” In response to both the article and the symbolism used by Jenna Galley, in her article on Unicorn Moms , who asserts, “ Unicorn mums are funny, up front and honest. They like to have fun and relax, preferably with a cold beverage. They do what they have to do to keep their kids alive. But they also do what they have to do”, I would suggest that a parent should put their beer down, and awaken to what is actually out in the culture which is very different than at any time in recent history. For, packaged in bright rainbow colors, sprinkled with glitter, and emblazoned with happy unicorns, are dangers to which such “unicorn parents” are blind to, as they who they are for just being themselves… as their kids are permitted to interact online and at libraries with other such “woke” parents, who are toasting themselves, along with all the other unicorn parents, for all the unicorn activities in which their kids are involved. Though I am aware that Ms. Galley is likely unaware of what the unicorn represents for Pedophiles (it is the #1 symbol used for grooming and communicating/identifying other pedophiles), since she used it as the theme of her article, as a symbol of the kind of parent toward which one should strive, I felt compelled to help awaken such parents to the methods used by Sophisticated Child Predators to not only communicate with one another, but also to identify, select, and groom their "targets of opportunity." Much like the military will identify a target by "painting" it with a laser for a guided smart bomb, Predators will paint their targets by symbols which can mark out a child who's parent is naive, thus unwittingly unprotective. Does everything have meaning and are used by to them? Of course not. But, some are well-known among those of us who've worked clinically with Predators in prison sex offender treatment. In fact, it surprised me how much I didn't realize until working with them for over a decade. As they are masters of manipulation and deception, they love taking what are actually cute and fun-loving childhood things, and turning them into useful tools for hunting.They will use symbols such seeming insignificant things as chicks, chicken, eggs, pizza, and rainbows. But, their #1 symbol? The Unicorn. So, yes, I appreciate the sentiments of such parents, as Ms. Galley, who to want to affirm themselves in their style of parenting, However, I do want to caution parents who feel that being “woke” is something worth celebrating ad affirming.

With the launch of Survivor Support, we are excited to expand the scope, reach and effectiveness of the original mission of Church Protect, Inc. Originally developed to help educate churches to the dangers of sexual predators, and to help educate them about the needs of survivors of sexual abuse, that ministry has now become but a part of a larger work, one that has, as its primary mission, help to support victims of sexual abuse, and to help educate others on how best to support and protect them as they make their way from trauma to wholeness. As we originally spoke in churches and in a wide variey of settings, it became increasingly apparent to us that we needed to expand the scope of our trainings to include a greater emphasis on training others on how best to support the survivors in their midst. Thus was born the the vision for an expanded ministry, with a greater emphasis on helping survivors. Not that our original committment to educate churches on how best to protect their children and survivors from sexual predators has chnaged, for it is still alive and well... infact, it is still growing. However, with the launch of Survivor Support, we are positioned to be able to significantly increase our help to survivors, while still providing the best materials available to churches and other organizations on the mind, methods, and motives of the Sexual Super Predator. Please spend some time parousing our website, as you will find a lot of information posted designed to help support survivors in the healing. And, as we will continue to add new material and helpful information on a regular basis, visit our site often. Before I close, I felt it fitting to recognize my former ministry partner's contribution to the founding and development of Church Protect. As Pastor Jimmy Hinton and I were originally introduced in 2015, our shared vision of protecting churches from sexual predators became clear, and our desire to combine our efforts resulted in the birth of that foundational work. With his involvement as CEO, Church Protect quickly became recognized as a leader in the field of educating churches and other organizations on the dynamics and underlying psychopathy of sexual predators. Our prayers go with him as he endeavors to shine much needed light into the darkness. We trust you will find this site both unique and useful. Should you desire to contact us for help, to submit a question, or to arrange for either a training or consultation, simply go to the contact page, and click on the applicable button. Our prayer is that Survivor Suooprt will become a useful tool for those desiring to learn how to better support survivors on their journey to wholeness, and a source of support for survivors looking for help and resources to help them successfully make the journey into the healing and wholeness the Lord desires for them, Blessings to you, Jon K. Uhler, MS, LPC, CEO & President Survivor Support