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Emotionally Toxic People

Though they are referred to by many terms in psychology (e.g. Narcissists, sociopaths, etc.), the easiest way to understand profoundly selfish people is to understand that they are emotionally harmful, and inevitably intentional and skillful in their interactions.
 
These are the "emotional blackholes," the people who are toxic to your sense of self and wellbeing, those who are intent upon ensuring they are the ones who will be in the one-up position, while ensuring you remain the the one-down position.
 
These are the people Jesus spoke of, when He clearly warned His followers not to cast their pearls before pigs. Mt. 7:6. Why? Because such toxic people will only end up causing intentional pain.
 
So, what is the answer to dealing with such toxic people? Simply put, boundaries. And,  those boundaries may very well be significant, sometimes even permanent.
The following are a collection of posts which speak to the issue of toxic people, what they are like, and principles to consider when dealing with them.
Emotionally Manipulating

Emotionally Manipulating

There are a number of types of emotional manipulators. But, the more profound ones are extremely emotionally toxic, as they have had years to perfect their skills.
 
The following videos afford a good overview of adept manipulators, the methodical ways in which they gain control over decent people, the cycle of emotional manipulation they employ to ensure they do not lose control of their victim, and ways to break free. 
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Relationally Damaging
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Relationally Damaging

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